The old white dudes that are in charge of everything are scared as fuck of YOU.
--Gerard Way’s message to the young women in the crowd. Fonda Theatre 10/14/14. (via sky3cifervalo)
These are forms of male aggression that only women see. But even when men are afforded a front seat to harassment, they don’t always have the correct vantage point for recognizing the subtlety of its operation. Four years before the murders, I was sitting in a bar in Washington, D.C. with a male friend. Another young woman was alone at the bar when an older man scooted next to her. He was aggressive, wasted, and sitting too close, but she smiled curtly at his ramblings and laughed softly at his jokes as she patiently downed her drink. ‘Why is she humoring him?’ my friend asked me. ‘You would never do that.’ I was too embarrassed to say: ‘Because he looks scary’ and ‘I do it all the time.’
Women who have experienced this can recognize that placating these men is a rational choice, a form of self-defense to protect against setting off an aggressor. But to male bystanders, it often looks like a warm welcome, and that helps to shift blame in the public eye from the harasser and onto his target, who’s failed to respond with the type of masculine bravado that men more easily recognize.
BOOOM. Read this if you are a dude, please.
It’s hard for men to understand why women dont get loud & angry because they haven’t spent their entire lives being reprimanded whenever they take up too much space. (via pluralfloral)
An Open Letter to Sam Pepper
Thanks for taking the time to read this letter. As fellow YouTubers, we have much respect for others who put so much hard work into building their channel. It’s not easy, and you should be proud! That said, we’ve noticed that in your success, there has been a lack of respect in return…namely, for women and girls.
You may have noticed that your latest video “Fake Hand Ass Pinch Prank” has garnered considerable negative attention. In this video, you sexually violate a number of unsuspecting women on the street, many of whom are visibly confused and upset at being touched by you without permission. One woman even says “I don’t like that!” while you proceed to laugh and touch her more. In “How to Make Out with Strangers”, made a year ago, you pressure women on camera to make out with you - again, many of whom are visibly uncool with it. Confused and caught off guard, they painfully follow through with your requests, clearly uncomfortable. In “How to Pick Up Girls with a Lasso”, you physically restrain women on the street with lassos - many of whom look alarmed to be restrained by a stranger on the street.
You’d probably be alarmed too, wouldn’t you? Imagine someone on the street comes up and rubs their hand on your bottom, or a girl walks up to you with a camera and forces her mouth onto yours while you’re trying to figure out what’s going on. Imagine walking down the alley alone, when a guy much larger than you physically restrains you with rope and pulls you toward him. You probably wouldn’t like it, right?
People don’t like to be violated and they don’t like to see their friends and girlfriends be violated either (hence the group of men that tried to beat you up in the lasso video). And yet, history suggests that perhaps you find this humorous. It is very disturbing that we live in a world where the violation of women and girls’ bodies is not only funny, but profitable, and can garner considerable notoriety and views on YouTube.
We are deeply disturbed by this trend and would like to ask you, from one creator to another, to please stop. Please stop violating women and making them uncomfortable on the street for views. Please stop physically restraining them and pressuring them to be sexual when they are uncomfortable. Please show some respect for women’s right to their own bodies. While it may seem like harmless fun, a simple prank, or a “social experiment”, these videos encourage millions of young men and women to see this violation as a normal way to interact with women. 1 in 6 young women (real life ones, just like the ones in your video) are sexually assaulted, and sadly, videos like these will only further increase those numbers.
We realize that people make mistakes, and that sometimes it’s hard to see the ripple effect of one’s actions. We really hope that you will take a step back and consider the power you have to be someone who makes the world a better place. It’s not too late to make a change! We invite you to join us in ending widespread bodily violation that takes place in so many forms all around in the world.
Thanks so much.
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Girls get mocked for liking high heels and lipstick. Girls get mocked for liking sports. Girls get mocked for liking tea and books. Girls get mocked for liking comics books and video games. Girls get mocked for liking math and science. Girls get mocked for liking boys. Girls get mocked for liking girls. Girls get mocked for liking both. What the fuck are we supposed to like? Water? Air? Come on, tell me. I’m dying to know.
People have offered many potential explanations for this discrepancy, but this ad highlights the importance of the social cues that push girls away from math and science in their earliest childhood years.
This is so important. Girls pay attention. Boys, if you are a brother, father, cousin of a girl, pay attention.
This is CRITICAL
please someone reassure my this is just fuckin w people right.
this is bullshit what the fuck
Wait y’alls cups are really that small? holy fuck
why the fuck anyone needs 1.3L of coke in one sitting is beyond me but anyway
YOU EXPECT YOUR CHILDREN TO DRINK 700ML DRINKS TO COME WITH THEIR FUCKING HAPPY MEAL??? FUCK OUTTA HERE AMERICA
We have a “Kids” size that is smaller than the small. It’s like an Australian medium (which is the same size as a can of coke btw). Also, in the US all of the sizes cost the same amount. $1. You basically pick based on how much soda you want, not how much you want to pay. Which is excellent…if you want to give an entire nation diabetes.
Sometimes I get a little frustrated when people talk about how McDonald’s is bad for you and then in the same breath propose going to a local restaurant where they buy a half-pound bacon cheeseburger. The wheat is the same wheat, the meat is the same meat. There’s nothing about McDonald’s that’s intrinsically bad for you except portion sizes, which are just as bad, if not worse, at sit-down service places.
There’s this perception that McDonald’s is junk food simply because it’s McDonald’s and, frankly, I’m starting to think it’s classist. Like, It’s where poor people go, so it must not be substandard.
The only problem with McDonald’s is that when you get a Big Mac Meal with large fries and a coke, you’re getting 1,300 calories set in front of you…and unfortunately it tastes so damn good that you’ll eat the whole thing.
Oh…another problem with McDonald’s is that to keep their prices low they pay poverty-level wages to, increasingly, adult professional people, but that’s not what I hear people complaining about.